Disney’s “Inside Out” Trailer offers a fun illustration of the internal dialogues, urges and impulses guided by various emotions inside our human minds. We are a blend of various aspects, each with their own set of feelings, ideas, agendas and personalities. Looking and relating to ourselves as an internal team, can offer a lot of clarity, and a more compassionate attitude to work through challenges.
In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire?
We each have parts that need protection and parts that protect. Couples counseling helps partners to recognize and prevent negative communication cycles, and teaches effective communication and intimacy skills to increase happiness.